\documentstyle{article}[12pt] \begin{document} \normalsize April 3rd, Friday 1998 \\ \huge Jealousy \small by \large Dick Keyes, \small L'Abri Fellowship, Soughborough, MA\\ \normalsize \indent Second lecture in "Misplaced Self" \\ \indent Not discuss jealousy of God. Dealing with human, sinful jealousy \\ \indent Misplaced self: where do we find a sense of security, self-affirmation\\ \indent Example of Moses and Aaron: Anxiety -> ecstacy, perverse was of getting a quick sense of security. \\ \indent Jealousy: Building a sense of secutiry around comparative edge over other people. \\ \indent I. Jealousy itself \\ \indent II. Essence of Jealousy \\ \indent III. Results of Jealousy \\ \indent IV. Freedom from Jealousy \\ \large $\bullet$ I. Jealousy \\ Looking Down: \\ \normalsize \indent Derive a sense of security by looking down and talking down on another person. \\ \indent Perverse way of getting immediate and tangible sense of security. \\ \indent Significant comfort from looking down. \\ \indent Reaffirm self-confidence \\ \indent I am Ok because I am better ..... \\ \indent Identity formed around comparison \\ \indent Ladders \\ \large Looking Up: \\ \normalsize \indent If your security is made by developing and maintaining comparative edges over other people then you get in-security coming out of looking up:Jealousy \\ \indent Wanting what other persons have is Ok\\ \indent Jealousy is when the fact that they have makes you anxious, ....\\ \indent When it becomes threats to your sense of security \\ \indent Comparative depravation. e.g. King Saul \\ \indent King Saul didn't lose anything, but something has changed in his mind.\\ \indent There was no objective changes. \\ \indent Another example: Amadeus, Salieria and Mozart \\ \large $\bullet$ II. Essence of Jealousy \\ \normalsize \indent Matthew chap. 20 \\ \indent Not a question of injustice. They were paid exactly what they were told to be paid. \\ \indent Complaints: You gave them as much as you gave me. Others have been brought up to our level. \\ \indent Psychological robbery/ Psychological Loss \\ \indent Is your eye evil because I am good. \\ \indent Self-identity: maintaining a kind of sense of security via comparative edge. \\ \indent Identity based on superiority \\ \indent If you build sense of security around comparative edge, you will be destroyed when you lose it! \\ \indent Children: Christmas toy. So jealousy even hate the toy and despise. \\ \indent Someway, I am superior thatn others \\ \indent Envy in Christian ministry \\ \indent Advertising Industry \\ \indent Most difficult with those who are close to us. \\ \indent George Whitfield: enjoy others' gifts\\ \large $\bullet$ III. Results of Jealousy \\ Alienations \\ \normalsize (1) Alienation from others \\ (2) Alienation from Oneself \\ \indent Jealousy: having an evil eye \\ \indent lose any idea of gratification and thankfulness \\ \indent There is never celebration in jealousy. The sin never celebrated.\\ \indent Jealousy is not attractive. Jealousy is self-alieanted and self-demeaning.\\ \indent Envy doesn't stand up to its own gaze. It's so painful to look at. So people tend to hide it. Hide with anger. It's so painful to accept and acknowledge. We transfrom it to something more acceptable. \\ (3) Alienation from God \\ \large $\bullet$ IV. Freedom from Jealousy \\ Guidelines \\ \normalsize \indent God never promise the world looks fair to us when we look at one another and compare ourselves with one another. \\ \indent Parable of vineyard: the first will be the last, the last will be the first. \\ \indent God is fair in the individual relationship with each individual. \\ \indent Job: Job's friends and Job \\ \indent Lifelong struggle: find self-identity in God. \\ \indent Security and value found in redemption. \\ \indent Looking up (jealousy) and looking down(scorn): identity by comparative advantage and security offered by looking down. \\ \indent 2 Cor. 10:12: without understanding \\ \indent Stop looking down. \\ \indent Criteria evaluating oneselves. \\ \indent Judge: comparing is absolutely ridiculous. \\ \indent Prayer: I rather .... \\ \indent Make other men's gift mine by making me thankful for their gifts. \\ \indent We are members of the same body of Christ. one body. \\ \indent How destructive: Two directions \indent looking up -> anger \\ \indent looking down -> scorn \\ \indent Ministry of National Inquirer \\ \indent (1) Celebrity, star: make you jealousy about their beauty and their life, publicity, fame, glory: Looking up\\ \indent (2) Tear them dowm: make them look smaller to your satisfaction. Looking down \\ \indent See others better than me. \\ \indent He(God) is our final audience. His verdict is the true and final. \\ \large $\bullet$ Q and A session\\ \normalsize (1) Competition: We must keep our child competative--> to adjust and function in the real world? \\ \indent Evaluating individually : "devide and conquer" \\ \indent Teach a lot about losing and failure. \\ \indent Sense of security in our love. \\ \indent By telling story in which parents always ended up winning, so we can make our children ill-equiped with failure. \\ \indent Success-ethics, winner-ethics \\ (2) L'Abri \\ \indent Some distance from one another \\ \indent Dr. Schaeffer's priority: \\ \indent Externalizing and quantifiable things: Am I failing and winning? We always asking. \\ \indent We tend to quantify and compare things. \\ \indent Freedom from kind of things that are quantifiable. \\ \indent Mardi's comments: L'Abri insistence in valuing diversity and rejoicing diversity \\ (3) Messy world: cut in the middle. \\ ----------------------------------- \\ \normalsize \indent Prayer requests \\ \indent Choi, Sunghee \\ \indent Park, Hyukjae \\ \indent Lee, Shin-Woong \\ \indent Choi, Dae-Il \\ \end{document}